My family and I are moving in a few weeks. It is a mildly complicated situation that will find us in limbo for a few days (or weeks) until we find our next abode. Though there have been several pinch moments we are now sailing smoothly through to the launch of a new adventure, a new chapter in our story.
Funnily enough this has been both a planned and a spontaneous venture, with lots of bumps in the road and a few dead ends, but we have stayed true to our promise to see this all the way through to a fresh start. And odder still, are the things that come together when an event like this occurs; it is amazing what light the present can bring to the past. If you can slow yourself down long enough to reflect on the now it will help you piece together why your path has led you here. Like many people I believe things happen for a reason. Whether or not you can see it at the time, they do.
Another thing to keep in mind: never allow you to be too consumed by regret. All of those blunders and whatevers are all part of the path that you have walked and continue to walk; the path that finds you here now. People think certain things happen in an attempt to divert you from your path – this is not necessarily true. Your path is yours, you cannot divert from it; your path may change, you may not always recognize it, but it is yours. The life you live is the path you walk and like your shadow it follows you everywhere.
Many of us are afraid something terrible will happen if we relinquish some of our control or wander too far. Sometimes these seemingly terrible things bring about something good and great, sometimes they divert us so that we do not encounter the horrendous. And unfortunately, the intention never matters. People like to yield control because they think they can stop certain things from happening or sway others in an attempt to bring about what they see as the best outcome. A lot of the time these people confuse control and power.
I like to watch things unfold organically. I find we interfere too often, even in our own lives, because we human beings have suddenly adopted this terrible and insatiable need for control. But I, too, also like control. As a diabetic a big part of my life is about control (mainly of good blood glucose numbers), but I have learned over the years that control should be something employed sparingly and I have relearned this during the last few months. In fact, it may end up being the one of the greatest lessons I learn this year. Letting go of your need for control allows your deepest wants and desires to float to the surface; there is no longer anything weighing them down. In this control lies judgement and scorn. Release yourself of your own control to discover where it is you really want your journey to go – sometimes having no control allows you to fine tune your wants and needs. Sometimes a lack of control defines these more clearly. When you cannot place the chess pieces just so anymore the game changes and suddenly you find you have to pay more attention. There is no going through the motions here and that is why people fight so hard to keep that control. People want a routine so strict it occurs without thought. Sadly, it is in those shackles life is lost.
No longer worry about where it is you have been and what has happened. Free yourself from the things you have done. Do not judge yourself as you do. We are so much harder on ourselves than we are others and harder still than others are on us. I mean really, we think everyone is thinking about us and watching us and they are not. Trust me. People are far, far too consumed with themselves to worry about you like that. Embrace the freedom you have to walk your way. You have so much more of your path to explore. And, remember: a soul is a resilient thing.